I just booked a vacation, the kind of vacation I never booked … all week long spa break. I almost always went in search of something; adventures, creativity, exploration (about myself and the world), romance, culture, learning … but now I know that it is all available on its own doorstep. I feel less needed for a vacation and, oddly enough, it seems to me that I need that type of vacation!
It got me thinking, and in a recent poll I conducted in my own head, it seems like many people are reaching a certain point, call it a breaking point and decide that they need a break. According to the survey mentioned above, the ten main reasons for rest were as follows;
1) Need to get away from work / life stress
3) To get quality time with loved ones
4) Habit – “We always leave at this time of year.”
5) Separation from the norm
6) New experience / different culture
7) Have fun – nightlife, sports or just adventures.
8) Get a tan / tan (so you can feel happy / look healthy)
9) It’s on my bucket list – “I’ve always wanted to go there.”
10) Facebook shows that everyone else is doing it, and I need new photos to make everyone jealous.
The funny thing about the holidays is that sometimes booking them seems stressful. For example, people often book two week breaks and then spend months telling others (before and after) that they can’t afford anything else because they just paid / went on vacation ( which, of course, should include a brand new wardrobe and toiletries ). There are also those who worry about their job or before they leave, desperately trying to tie ALL the lost ends ( they cannot delegate ), or while they are in, or when they return to hundreds of emails. This kind of thinking leads them to believe that they cannot rest at all.
So how can you get the same results that a holiday gives you without even going on vacation?
Here are my top tips for getting rid of it all without actually running away:
1) Make the most of your free time – don’t come home on a Friday night and have lunch in front of the TV. Schedule a date; a quick drink after work or dinner date does not crash into your cooling off period, part of it!
2) Schedule a couple of hours on the weekends or evenings a week to do anything for you. Get creative, read a book quietly in a cafe or just sit in a warm bath. Make sure other people know this is happening, and it is for you … not to run away from them, but to reconnect with yourself. Equally, schedule quality time with loved ones – picking up a football practice or shopping with a partner doesn’t count!
3) Think good thoughts and you really don’t notice the rain … and share it with others, smile at strangers.
4) Spend a theme night at. Mexico, Italy, France, Asia .. let everyone bring a dish using unusual fruits and vegetables, dress up, find tunes, decorate the dining room, shoot the appropriate movie … bring culture to you.
5) Turn your weekend into an adventure once a month – hop on a random bus, point your finger at the map, make a list of places you want to go to, put ideas in a hat and choose one, or just take a walk and get off down the slopes. The main thing here is to admire what you can discover.
6) Make arrangements with girls – clap on fake tan and rip out summer tunes when you are captivating.
7) Focus on what you have – I have said this before and I will say again that grateful people are much happier than those who are always pursuing something else. Write thankful dairy products every couple of days and meditate as needed.
8) Relax – meditate, swim, do yoga / mindfulness, lie down … whatever works for you, do it … and do it often.
9) Really look at things around you – look at things differently and you will find many miracles already in your world.
10) Be stupid – releasing hair not only to children or alcohol. Go dance in the kitchen and sing outside!